Supporting Fathers: Mental Health and Well-being Across Generations

The role of fatherhood carries deep emotional weight. For many dads, expectations to be providers and protectors collide with daily stressors such as unemployment, inequality, and the nation’s high crime rates. The result? Fathers often suppress their needs, leading to anxiety, depression, and emotional distance.

The silent burden of fatherhood

According to a 2021 report by Sonke Gender Justice and Stellenbosch University, nearly half of South African fathers admitted to feeling down, depressed, or hopeless in the past six months (Source: health-e.org.za). Many feel shame over not meeting cultural and financial expectations, struggles that affect not only them but the entire family. Evidence shows that father’s mental health directly influences maternal well-being, birth outcomes and children’s development.

Breaking the silence

Thankfully, attitudes are changing. Organisations such as Fathers In Africa, ManUp Mental Health, South African Depression & Anxiety Group (SADAG), and Dad’s the Word offer father-focused counselling, peer support and mentoring, many online and accessible in different languages. Online platforms such as HeadsUpGuys, Kena Health, and October Health bridge the gap for fathers who cannot access in-person help. SMS forums, 24/7 hotlines, and tele-counselling services offer anonymity and round-the-clock access, key in communities where mental health is still taboo.  These platforms play a vital role in normalising emotional care for men.

Overcoming deep-rooted barriers

Despite progress, fathers are still underserved within the mental health system. Formal health services in South Africa tend to prioritise women and children, meaning fathers often fall through the cracks. There is also a tendency among dads to internalise their struggles and avoid seeking help, reinforcing isolation.

Towards generational healing

Shifting norms around masculinity require that we encourage open dialogue in settings like churches, workplaces, sports clubs and barber chairs, places where men naturally relate. Community-driven initiatives must be expanded and backed by investment in father-inclusive mental programmes at clinics and schools. Encouraging men to complete paternity leave and attend antenatal appointments can reduce maternal depression, improve bonding, and further destigmatise help‑seeking.

Father-specific support

·       Fathers In Africa: Offers mentoring programmes; peer group counselling 

·       ManUp Mental Health: Offers online forums and counselling for men 

·       SADAG: Helplines, support groups and resources for fathers and families 

·       Dad’s the Word: Offers guidance for new and expectant fathers 

·       Izenzo Dad Care: Offers skills and resilience training for dads 

“Strong” doesn’t mean silent. It means speaking up, taking care of one’s own mind, and showing the next generation what it truly means to be a man. Supporting fathers changes lives, not just theirs, but everyone they care for. Let’s build a culture that celebrates this form of strength in all its dimensions.