If You Are Experiencing Abuse – You Are Not Alone

Abuse is not always easy to see. Sometimes the signs are small.

Look out for:

• Frequent injuries: They may have bruises or cuts and give excuses that do not sound true.

• Sudden changes in behaviour: Someone who was talkative may become very quiet or withdrawn.

• Fearful body language: They may look scared, nervous, or flinch when someone raises their voice or moves

suddenly.

• Always being checked on or controlled: Their partner or family member might call constantly, tell them who they can talk to, or decide where they can go.

• Stopped seeing friends and family: They may be isolated on purpose so they have no support.

• No control over money: They may not be allowed to work or touch money in the house, even for small things.

• Talking about being “put in their place”: They may say things like “It’s just how things are” or “I deserved it.”

This is a sign they may believe the abuse is normal.

How to help someone else:

• Check in gently: “Are you okay? I’m here if you need to talk.”

• Do not judge or blame.

• Offer support, not pressure.

• Share helpline numbers instead of trying to fix the situation alone.

What to do if you need help:

• Get to a safe place if you can.

• Tell someone you trust- a neighbour, friend, taxi driver, teacher or church leader.

• Do not stay silent. Abuse often gets worse over time.

• If you feel in danger right now, call the police immediately.

Important numbers to call

Police Emergency: For danger or crime in progress

Number: 10111

GBV Command Centre: Support for women & children, phone or WhatsApp help

Number: 0800 428 428 or WhatsApp: 083 765 7867

USSD Help (no airtime needed): Quick access to a social worker

Number: Dial 1207867#

Childline South Africa: Help for children facing abuse, bullying, fear or danger

Number: 116

Lifeline SA: Emotional support and counselling

Number: 0861 322 322

Remember

• Asking for help is brave.

• You do not need permission to get support.

• Someone will listen.

• Someone will help.

You deserve to live in peace and safety, at home, at school, and in your community.